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  • How To Successfully Parent After A Divorce

    Seattle Divorce Mediation | Whole Mediation | (206) 568-5337
    Debra Synovec
    6 May 2015 | 6:27 pm
    Divorce is difficult and a divorce becomes even more difficult when children are involved. While separation can be the best option for the individual, it creates conditions within the family that largely affect your kids for the rest of their lives. Divorcees must learn to work together even though they are no longer legally bound to make the transition as easy on the children as possible. Mediation is an effective strategy during the separation process, but is also incredibly helpful after the divorce is finalized. Post-divorce mediation allows parents to discuss child support, logistics,…
  • Current edition of MINDFULNESS RESEARCH MONTHLY is now available

    Brains On Purpose™
    StephanieWestAllen
    6 May 2015 | 4:32 pm
    May's edition of Mindfulness Research Monthly includes 19 Interventions 14 Associations 11 Methods 8 Reviews 2 Trials. Click to read the new edition.
  • WCML 048: Your insurance claim adjustor is not your friend

    Pace Smith
    Pace and Kyeli
    21 May 2015 | 4:00 am
    When getting an insurance settlement Some secrets and methods are prevalent. So here’s what you need to know to proceed with your insurance claim – (That’s irrelevant!) Highlights: how this is related to living a wild crazy meaningful life the story of Kyeli’s claim the script that insurance adjustors follow false friendship verbal bullying “That’s irrelevant!” Who’s to blame? The adjustor or the system that encourages the adjustor? The CEO or the laws that encourage the CEO to care only about profits? What to do when politeness is used as a…
  • Will the De La Hoya/Al Haymon Dispute Be Ordered to Mediation

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    sportszenblog
    8 May 2015 | 7:26 pm
    http://espn.go.com/boxing/story/_/id/12835912/golden-boy-promotions-sues-al-haymon-300-million The above hyperlink is to a story that first broke on ESPN this week after the much talked about Mayweather/Pacquiao fight.  According to this article the fight that has been brewing between Oscar De La Hoya and Al Haymon is more epic than the aforementioned fight.  The suit that was filed in Los Angeles earlier this week is for $300 million and alleges anti-trust behavior.  Will be following this one closely as the suit seems to be deeply rooted in prior conflict.  This case is perfect for a…
  • Speaking notes: The future of tech and peacekeeping, re:publica 2015

    ICT for Peacebuilding (ICT4Peace)
    Sanjana
    7 May 2015 | 9:25 am
    Invited by ZIF – Center for International Peace Operations and representing the ICT4Peace Foundation, I spoke today at re:publica15 in Berlin, Germany on the future of peacekeeping and technology. The session this morning had a very compelling title: NERDS WITH BLUE HELMETS? DIGITAL INNOVATION AND PEACEKEEPING. My submission was anchored to the following points: Following from the ‘Performance Peacekeeping’ report, what are the central challenges for peacekeeping in our digital age? What impact will the Internet of Things (IoT) tomorrow, and the democratisation of mobile devices today…
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  • How To Successfully Parent After A Divorce

    Debra Synovec
    6 May 2015 | 6:27 pm
    Divorce is difficult and a divorce becomes even more difficult when children are involved. While separation can be the best option for the individual, it creates conditions within the family that largely affect your kids for the rest of their lives. Divorcees must learn to work together even though they are no longer legally bound to make the transition as easy on the children as possible. Mediation is an effective strategy during the separation process, but is also incredibly helpful after the divorce is finalized. Post-divorce mediation allows parents to discuss child support, logistics,…
  • Post Divorce Mediation

    Debra Synovec
    25 Mar 2015 | 4:35 am
    Divorce is not an end-all situation. Life brings many changes, situations often arise involving your former spouse that will need to be addressed long after the papers have been signed. With all the factors that connect a couple when they are legally married, many issues carry over after the divorce is final. Loose ends can be left untied even after the divorce is final, and new issues often arise between the divorced couple. Mediation is often a helpful approach for couples that have run into issues after their divorce has been finalized. Rather than using litigation that can be time…
  • Divorce Mediation Can Help During Tax Season

    Debra Synovec
    24 Feb 2015 | 12:30 pm
    Along with the many other difficulties involved in a divorce, tax season can be an especially tricky time. Although taxes are probably the last thing on your mind when divorcing, the issues involved will have an impact on your tax return as well as your spouse’s tax return. Tax rules are complicated enough, and the legalities of divorce can only make them more problematic. Divorce mediation can help alleviate this process by emphasizing communication between the couple and efficiently coming up with solutions to filling out tax returns. “Many couples going through a litigated divorce are…
  • The Divorce Mediator and Attorney Team

    Debra Synovec
    28 Jan 2015 | 12:39 pm
    Video Series Part 3 Divorce: Mediator and Attorney Team from Cimira Studios on Vimeo. A common misconception in divorce mediation is that if you’re using a mediator, you don’t need an attorney; for some couples that may be true. However, often times attorneys/legal advisers play an important and necessary role in the early stage mediated divorce process. While an attorney is the legal advocate for the client, a mediator acts as a neutral guide and facilitator for the divorcing couple. Mediators and attorneys play different but crucial roles in the divorce process. A mediator provides a…
  • Explaining Divorce Mediation

    Debra Synovec
    27 Dec 2014 | 3:54 pm
    Video Series Part 2 Divorce Mediation from Cimira Studios on Vimeo. Divorce is usually an emotional, confusing, and overwhelming time for each person involved. Mediation is a process that provides a safe and productive method for couples to get results, come up with solutions, and avoid messy, expensive courtroom situations. Merriam-Webster dictionary defines “mediation” as “intervention between conflicting parties to promote reconciliation, settlement, or compromise”.  Specifically, a divorce mediator works with the divorcing couple and facilitates healthy conversation between them…
 
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    Brains On Purpose™

  • Current edition of MINDFULNESS RESEARCH MONTHLY is now available

    StephanieWestAllen
    6 May 2015 | 4:32 pm
    May's edition of Mindfulness Research Monthly includes 19 Interventions 14 Associations 11 Methods 8 Reviews 2 Trials. Click to read the new edition.
  • That's not how it happened! Let me tell you the true story

    StephanieWestAllen
    6 Mar 2015 | 6:52 am
    How can two or more people sincerely, earnestly, and confidently have such widely divergent versions of events? As mediators, we often have heard stories from parties in which the facts are conflicting and yet no one seems to be deliberately deceiving. Research continues to show us our memories are malleable and pliant so we are not surprised at the inconsistency....
  • Newest edition of MINDFULNESS RESEARCH MONTHLY now available

    StephanieWestAllen
    4 Mar 2015 | 9:24 am
    The March edition of Mindfulness Research Monthly is now posted for your reading pleasure. It includes 50 new cites: 15 Interventions 15 Associations 9 Methods 11 Reviews.
  • Are you or your clients remembering that story accurately? Some ways to check

    StephanieWestAllen
    11 Feb 2015 | 6:41 am
    I recommend to you this excellent article written by the authors of The Invisible Gorilla: How Our Intuitions Deceive Us. They offer 10 ways to check the accuracy of our very malleable and faulty memory. Journalists know that when they hear something from one source, they should corroborate it with independent sources before reporting it. The science of memory has...
  • New edition of MINDFULNESS RESEARCH MONTHLY now available

    StephanieWestAllen
    13 Jan 2015 | 2:44 pm
    The January issue offers 12 Interventions 17 Associations 7 Methods 13 Reviews 1 Trial
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    Pace Smith

  • WCML 048: Your insurance claim adjustor is not your friend

    Pace and Kyeli
    21 May 2015 | 4:00 am
    When getting an insurance settlement Some secrets and methods are prevalent. So here’s what you need to know to proceed with your insurance claim – (That’s irrelevant!) Highlights: how this is related to living a wild crazy meaningful life the story of Kyeli’s claim the script that insurance adjustors follow false friendship verbal bullying “That’s irrelevant!” Who’s to blame? The adjustor or the system that encourages the adjustor? The CEO or the laws that encourage the CEO to care only about profits? What to do when politeness is used as a…
  • WCML 047: God as an emergent property of the universe

    Pace and Kyeli
    5 May 2015 | 4:00 am
    Let’s talk about this, ’cause it’s urgent: Let’s clean out our brains with detergent. Let’s cast aside That God is outside, And think about God as emergent. A conversation about a different perspective on the Divine; not as a separate entity or a separate force, but as an emergent property of the universe. Highlights: What is an emergent property? It’s like a hurricane in the weather system. It’s like consciousness in the brain. Is God like a dude in the sky? Is Spirit like an all-pervading mist? God as an emergent property of the universe We are like…
  • How to pickle an epiphany

    Pace
    30 Apr 2015 | 5:58 am
    Has this ever happened to you? You’re struggling. Frustrated, stressed, everything seems like an obstacle. Then something seemingly insignificant happens. A bird flies by, a song comes on, a phrase casually dropped in conversation… and everything slows down. Your perspective shifts. You see things in a new light. The obstacle that looked like an immovable mountain ten seconds ago now looks like a medium-sized rock that you could totally push out of the way. Photo by Lotus Carroll   And then you smack yourself on the forehead as you remember: You had this exact same epiphany…
  • WCML 049: Wild Crazy Meaningful Friendships, with Kylie Bellard

    Pace and Kyeli
    23 Apr 2015 | 4:00 am
    Let’s talk about friends old and new: Which to ditch, which to pursue. Today’s special guest Has oft effervesced; We have not one Kylie, but two! Highlights: friendship shame/taboos “A good friendship is important enough to risk awkwardness.” -Pace Smith The Ratchet Effect: “You can deepen, but not shallowen” deconflating friendship internet friends vs. in-person friends Pace’s takeaway: the usual error in regards to the word “friend” Kyeli’s takeaway: know what your friendship style is and communicate that with your friends…
  • The 3 different kinds of fear, and how to handle each one

    Pace
    16 Apr 2015 | 4:00 am
    Fear #1: Tiger Fear OH MY GOD THERE’S A TIGER RIGHT BEHIND ME! Run. Run away fast. When you’re safe, the fear will pass. Fear #2: Neurochemical Fear Sometimes, nothing touches the fear. No amount of running away from tigers, no amount of emotional processing, no amount of spiritual practice makes the fear subside. This type of fear can be caused by chemicals in your brain, and can be treated by a professional. Fear #3: Anxiety When the fear isn’t an immediate threat like a tiger, and when it’s not caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain, it’s anxiety. Anxiety…
 
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  • Will the De La Hoya/Al Haymon Dispute Be Ordered to Mediation

    sportszenblog
    8 May 2015 | 7:26 pm
    http://espn.go.com/boxing/story/_/id/12835912/golden-boy-promotions-sues-al-haymon-300-million The above hyperlink is to a story that first broke on ESPN this week after the much talked about Mayweather/Pacquiao fight.  According to this article the fight that has been brewing between Oscar De La Hoya and Al Haymon is more epic than the aforementioned fight.  The suit that was filed in Los Angeles earlier this week is for $300 million and alleges anti-trust behavior.  Will be following this one closely as the suit seems to be deeply rooted in prior conflict.  This case is perfect for a…
  • The Fish Rots from the Head Down

    Jackie Kellso
    8 May 2015 | 3:27 pm
    Phrase of the day: Employee Engagement.  My metaphor: The Fish Rots from the Head Down. If you, a Ba
  • The Benefits of Bad Work Experiences

    Jackie Kellso
    8 May 2015 | 3:09 pm
    Most of us have worked for companies that were a mismatch with our personalities, our talents, our e
  • What's Wrong With Me?

    Terry D.
    8 May 2015 | 1:01 pm
    What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I find true love? Why does it seem like it’ll never happen for me, and what am I doing wrong? I see everyone else prospering in love, but I feel so hopeless… There’s nothing wrong with you, you just have to be true to you, and not be a repetitive lover.  What does that mean? Evaluate what has NOT worked for you, and do the polar opposite. You can’t find love, because you’re looking!  STOP chasing love.  It will come to you! Timing is everything.  We become impatient, and take matters into our own hands.  God has a…
  • la la la lalalala

    boozilla
    8 May 2015 | 12:16 pm
    Well. For the most part it has continued, of late, to be an extra weird mix of sturm AND drang.  I managed to obtain and download a new operating system for my antediluvian laptop, and also downloaded what appears to be a browser that will work.  I only cried about three times during all of that, which I think is pretty impressive, especially given the situation.  My heavy lifting routine consists of imagining a giant paddle with which I swat away all the bothersome thoughts about What Needs To Be Done.  Because I am not there yet, not at the place where Things Can Be Done.  Still a week…
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  • How To Successfully Parent After A Divorce

    Debra Synovec
    6 May 2015 | 6:27 pm
    Divorce is difficult and a divorce becomes even more difficult when children are involved. While separation can be the best option for the individual, it creates conditions within the family that largely affect your kids for the rest of their lives. Divorcees must learn to work together even though they are no longer legally bound to make the transition as easy on the children as possible. Mediation is an effective strategy during the separation process, but is also incredibly helpful after the divorce is finalized. Post-divorce mediation allows parents to discuss child support, logistics,…
  • Post Divorce Mediation

    Debra Synovec
    25 Mar 2015 | 4:35 am
    Divorce is not an end-all situation. Life brings many changes, situations often arise involving your former spouse that will need to be addressed long after the papers have been signed. With all the factors that connect a couple when they are legally married, many issues carry over after the divorce is final. Loose ends can be left untied even after the divorce is final, and new issues often arise between the divorced couple. Mediation is often a helpful approach for couples that have run into issues after their divorce has been finalized. Rather than using litigation that can be time…
  • Divorce Mediation Can Help During Tax Season

    Debra Synovec
    24 Feb 2015 | 12:30 pm
    Along with the many other difficulties involved in a divorce, tax season can be an especially tricky time. Although taxes are probably the last thing on your mind when divorcing, the issues involved will have an impact on your tax return as well as your spouse’s tax return. Tax rules are complicated enough, and the legalities of divorce can only make them more problematic. Divorce mediation can help alleviate this process by emphasizing communication between the couple and efficiently coming up with solutions to filling out tax returns. “Many couples going through a litigated divorce are…
  • The Divorce Mediator and Attorney Team

    Debra Synovec
    28 Jan 2015 | 12:39 pm
    Video Series Part 3 Divorce: Mediator and Attorney Team from Cimira Studios on Vimeo. A common misconception in divorce mediation is that if you’re using a mediator, you don’t need an attorney; for some couples that may be true. However, often times attorneys/legal advisers play an important and necessary role in the early stage mediated divorce process. While an attorney is the legal advocate for the client, a mediator acts as a neutral guide and facilitator for the divorcing couple. Mediators and attorneys play different but crucial roles in the divorce process. A mediator provides a…
  • Explaining Divorce Mediation

    Debra Synovec
    27 Dec 2014 | 3:54 pm
    Video Series Part 2 Divorce Mediation from Cimira Studios on Vimeo. Divorce is usually an emotional, confusing, and overwhelming time for each person involved. Mediation is a process that provides a safe and productive method for couples to get results, come up with solutions, and avoid messy, expensive courtroom situations. Merriam-Webster dictionary defines “mediation” as “intervention between conflicting parties to promote reconciliation, settlement, or compromise”.  Specifically, a divorce mediator works with the divorcing couple and facilitates healthy conversation between them…
 
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    ICT for Peacebuilding (ICT4Peace)

  • Speaking notes: The future of tech and peacekeeping, re:publica 2015

    Sanjana
    7 May 2015 | 9:25 am
    Invited by ZIF – Center for International Peace Operations and representing the ICT4Peace Foundation, I spoke today at re:publica15 in Berlin, Germany on the future of peacekeeping and technology. The session this morning had a very compelling title: NERDS WITH BLUE HELMETS? DIGITAL INNOVATION AND PEACEKEEPING. My submission was anchored to the following points: Following from the ‘Performance Peacekeeping’ report, what are the central challenges for peacekeeping in our digital age? What impact will the Internet of Things (IoT) tomorrow, and the democratisation of mobile devices today…
  • Big data can make South Asian cities more authoritarian

    Sanjana
    6 Apr 2015 | 6:25 am
    Nalaka Gunewardene has an interesting article on smart cities published on Scidev.net, in which he makes the case our cities today are just too unhealthy and that the advent of smart cities will “enhance feedback loops within the complex systems” and if processed properly, result in a “the steady flow of data” that  “can vastly improve the design of ‘hard’ physical environment and the provision of ‘soft’ services to citizens”. Though it is true that evidence based decision making around policymaking is better than partisan, expedient or downright…
  • Election monitoring in austere contexts using ICTs

    Sanjana
    29 Mar 2015 | 12:02 am
    The following note was penned to the co-ordinator of the Centre for Monitoring Election Violence (CMEV), who asked me to go into some detail around the information security, gathering, archival and dissemination strategies I conceptualised and deployed around the historic Presidential Eleection in Sri Lanka, held on 8th January 2015. CMEV’s information operations are a template for the monitoring of election violence similar austere circumstances, where the independent monitoring agencies, monitors and activists are at risk of violent pushback before, on the day of and after the elections.
  • Tsunami: 10 years hence

    Sanjana
    25 Dec 2014 | 10:54 pm
    Technology does not feel. It does not bleed. Its very insensitivity to trauma can be its strength – the tireless information sharing frameworks Info Share created knew no time of day and didn’t clamour for rest. On the other hand, because it is value neutral, technology lends itself to abuse. It cannot by itself create relief processes. No matter how suave and sophisticated the technology, our experience is that it will not be sustainable if it does not recognise the cultural context within which it is used. As such, the use of technology in the tsunami response has wider implications for…
  • Technology and theatre in a library

    Sanjana
    25 Nov 2014 | 4:43 am
    When I read Where Humbert Humbert Might Whisper in Your Ear in the New York Times on a flight back to Colombo from the US, I immediately thought of doing something along the same lines in Sri Lanka to explore to what degree, post-war, we were still under invisible frameworks of control and censorship. Upon my return, I emailed the British Council in Colombo, and also members of the Floating Space Theatre Company. Detailed exchanges over email around the conceptual basis for the production, the selection of texts, discussions around technology and several long meetings with the cast to thrash…
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  • Sometimes I Make My Family LAUGH

    Dr. Nancy Love
    12 May 2015 | 8:54 am
    Yesterday I attended ANOTHER Dance competition.  I have lost track of how many my two daughters and my two granddaughters and I have danced at this year.  You kind of lose track of time.  Another theatre, another group of dancers and parents, another adjudication, more medals.  At this point it is all a blurr.  Dont get me wrong.  I LOVE watching the girls perform, but we are all tired right now and its almost over. You know you are tired when it is Monday and as your daughter tries to figure out the quickest way to get to the festival from work on time the next…
  • 25 Years Later the Class of 1990 from Sturgeon Comp.

    Dr. Nancy Love
    7 May 2015 | 1:14 pm
    Twenty Five years ago I was teaching at Sturgeon Composite High. I taught French and Social Studies. My daughter Julia was one of my students so I came to know the class of 1990 as a teacher and as a parent. I can hardly believe that those teenagers are now in their forties. Next month at the Celtic Knot here in St Albert they are having a get-together to mark the 25th Anniversary. If you were a teacher at Sturgeon Comp in 1990 you are also invited to attend on Friday, June the 12th at 6:00 pm for appetizers and cocktails. It should be a great time. They were wonderful children… a…
  • GM Hug your coworker today.  

    Dr. Nancy Love
    27 Apr 2015 | 6:49 am
    Good Morning.  What are you celebrating this fine Monday morning?  How was your weekend? Did you get a chance to get out of doors in the crisp Alberta air or whereever in the world you are? What do you enjoy doing on the weekends?  How is your family?  Did the baby cut her tooth yet?  Is your mother feeling better?  How was the drive to Saskatchewan?  Did your son win his game?  Did you enjoy the concert? These are the kind of questions I would ask if you were here.  We could have this great conversation about how you spend your time and that would…
  • Carpet Story

    Dr. Nancy Love
    14 Apr 2015 | 7:52 am
    I have a Persian rug in my living room, the kind that takes two people two years to make.  I know that because on trips to Turkey we have visited carpet shops and seen the operation and a demonstration of how they are made.  It is tedious work for sure.   When I look at my carpet now I see the little flaws in the pattern, the wiggles in the straight lines that tell me the story behind the carpet.  Of course I don’t really know the story but I can guess.  I think that there were days when the weavers were angry or anxious.  On those days the threads are…
  • Snow at Easter

    Dr. Nancy Love
    5 Apr 2015 | 1:57 pm
    It seems strange to see snow today.  It is April and it is supposed to be spring but here we are wondering why the snow is falling again.  “It’s been a long, cold, lonely winter” as Paul McCartney might say … “It seems like years since its been here.” I welcome snow in the winter.  It provides the base for a lot of wonderful outdoor activites.  Right now though, it is just interfering with the opportunities to get outside and do SPRING things.  It does not hold the same promise as it does earlier in the year.  The shoulder…
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    NCDD Community News

  • New Research on Inclusive Engagement & Technology

    Roshan Bliss
    22 May 2015 | 6:00 am
    We are cross-posting an interesting study that we found on NCDD member Tiago Peixoto‘s blog, DemocracySpot. The post details some of the findings from a recent study on the effect of technology on public participation in Brazil. You can check it out below or find his post here. Unusual Suspects? Effects of Technology on Citizen Engagement (Originally posted on the World Bank’s Let’s Talk Development blog) What is the effect of technology on citizen engagement? On the one hand, enthusiasts praise the prospects offered by technology: from real-time beneficiary feedback to…
  • Can Gamification Help Fight Civic Apathy?

    Roshan Bliss
    20 May 2015 | 6:00 am
    We wanted to share this post about a fun project called the CivCity Initiative that we found on the Gov 2.0 Watch blog, which is run by NCDD organizational member,the Davenport Institute. You can read it below or find the original here. The Engagement Game We have written a fair amount about gamifying civic engagement. Mary Morgan and Dave Askins, publishers of the local Ann Arbor Chronicle in Ann Arbor Michigan have partnered with existing programs to gamify local storytelling and are now looking for ways to do more: CivCity’s website and Twitter feed refer to the mission of…
  • Can Participatory Budgeting Democratize School Budgets?

    Roshan Bliss
    18 May 2015 | 6:00 am
    We encourage you to check out what promises to be a fascinating webinar that the Participatory Budgeting Project, an NCDD member organization, is hosting on Thursday, June 4th from 2-3pm EST / 11am-12pm PST.  The webinar is titled “Democratizing Schools with Participatory Budgeting” and will be an in-depth discussion of the nation’s first school-based participatory budgeting (PB) processes, featuring representatives from PB projects at schools in San Jose, CA and Chicago, IL. The webinar will seek to use insights from these cases studies to explore the impact…
  • Newest Issue of the Journal of Public Deliberation

    Roshan Bliss
    13 May 2015 | 10:30 pm
    We want to encourage our members to take a look at the newest issue of the Journal of Public Deliberation, which is not just a great resource for our field, but also features the work of some of our great NCDD members. The JPD itself is a joint effort between two NCDD organizations – the Deliberative Democracy Consortium and the International Association of Public Participation. You can find the list of articles in this issue below with links to their abstracts and full PDF downloads. We encourage you to learn more at about the Journal of Public Deliberation at…
  • Announcing June’s Tech Tuesday with Bang The Table

    Courtney Breese
    13 May 2015 | 9:00 am
    Registration is now open for June’s Tech Tuesday event featuring Bang the Table, creator of online engagement platforms EngagementHQ and the Budget Allocator. Join us for this FREE event Tuesday, June 9th from 2-3pm Eastern/11am-12pm Pacific. Bang the Table began as a place online where people could gather to discuss public policy at a grassroots level, named in recognition of the frustration that many people feel with the traditional policy and decision making processes of government. Today, Bang the Table provides online engagement platform EngagementHQ to over 150 clients as well as…
 
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  • Awakin Call on June 13th at 12 pm Eastern, 4 pm GMT

    Deidre Combs
    25 May 2015 | 9:20 pm
    I hope you will join me as the speaker on June 13th at 12 pm Eastern, 4 pm GMT for an hour call entitled Conflict as a Call to Sing Our Proudest Souls’ Anthems.  ServiceSpace, who hosts these calls, describes these gatherings as “a weekly conference call that anyone from around the world can dial into. It is completely free, without any ads or solicitation. Each call features a unique theme and an inspiring guest speaker.” I am very honored and humbled to be chosen as an Awakin Call speaker especially as I note that the Jacob Needleman is the next speaker. Check out…
  • What do you pray for?

    Deidre Combs
    23 Apr 2015 | 1:50 pm
    For the past few  weeks I have been walking the Camino de Santiago. This ancient pilgrimage route runs the width of northern Spain taking you to the Galician cathedral where St. James’ bones are reportedly entombed.  Walking the whole  500 miles in one fail swoop has been on my bucket list after walking it in halves three previous times. Lighting candles for others, and your journey, in the myriad of churches along the route is a common ritual. I have been holding a set of loved ones in my thoughts along this path and lighting candles for them has made sense. I appreciate that a…
  • A Call to Presence

    Deidre Combs
    3 Apr 2015 | 4:36 pm
    My winter held a unique tour of the spiritual traditions. I attended a neuroscience workshop at the Upaya Zen Center before working with Presbyterian ministers/trainers, then on to a workshop on indigenous wisdom with Patrick O’Neill. Last, as you read earlier, I supported a conference of primarily Muslim participants in Morocco. That’s my version of wonderful season! This special tour deepened my understanding of cross-tradition beliefs. I began February sitting in meditation twice a day, which included hearing the following advice sung each evening, “Let me respectfully remind…
  • Awash, a wash, in love

    Deidre Combs
    28 Mar 2015 | 1:37 pm
    Head, shoulders, knees and toes I recently supported a conference in Morocco for Middle Eastern and North African university students. They were reconvening to commemorate a shared 6-week summer experience in the US where 120 young university leaders participate in an intensive leadership and civic engagement program in host universities across the US. After the conference closed, my son Cameron and I went to Fez to visit a past State Department teacher fellow who had spent two months with us at Montana State University. We toured the city and its environs with our friend and accompanied him…
  • Show up

    Deidre Combs
    7 May 2014 | 2:44 pm
    I am not the first, nor will be the last, to write about the recent passing of Angeles Arrien. Angeles was an internationally renown and beloved teacher/ cultural anthropologist whose work has been a foundation of my own. She left us suddenly and unexpectedly on April 24th with her pearls of wisdom arising as answers as we each wrestle with her passing. Angeles’ core philosophy included four life practices that are found throughout the world’s indigenous cultures, called The Four Fold Way. They are: 1) Show up, choose to be present 2)Pay attention to what has heart and meaning,…
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    Waging Nonviolence

  • How the ‘Paddle in Seattle’ plans to beat Shell — a conversation with kayak-tivist John Sellers

    Kate Aronoff
    24 May 2015 | 9:36 am
    by Kate Aronoff Kayak-tivists gathered in Elliott Bay on Saturday, May 16, where the Polar Pioneer drilling rig is docked. (Flickr / Backbone Campaign) Seattle has become a hub of anti-extraction activism. Protests began on May 14, when Royal Dutch Shell — bucking city residents and officials — docked its Polar Pioneer off the Emerald City coast. The towering 400-by-355-foot oil rig is en route to the Arctic, where it is scheduled to begin drilling operations this summer. The largest demonstration yet happened May 16, as hundreds of “kayak-tivists” swarmed Seattle’s Terminal 5,…
  • Thousands of Newark students walk out to demand local control of schools

    Ashoka Jegroo
    23 May 2015 | 9:46 am
    by Ashoka Jegroo Students in Newark block the street on May 22. (Twitter/ Blue Jersey) Thousands of high school students in Newark, New Jersey staged a walkout of school and blocked a major roadway on May 22 in what organizers say was the biggest student protest in the city’s history. The walkout was in protest of Gov. Chris Christie and Superintendent Cami Anderson’s plans for changing the city’s school system through expanding charter schools, shutting down and merging public schools, and shifting students to schools farther from their homes. The students are also protesting against…
  • Nationwide protests bring attention to black women killed by police

    Ashoka Jegroo
    22 May 2015 | 9:25 am
    by Ashoka Jegroo Members of the BlackOUT Collective blocked Market Street in San Francisco on May 21. (Twiiter/BlackOUT Collective) Protesters in cities across the country staged various actions over the course of two days this week in order to bring attention to state violence inflicted upon black women, stories often ignored by the media and even by other #BlackLivesMatter protests. The first day of action was on May 20 in New York City. On that day, hundreds of protesters gathered in Union Square at around 5:30 p.m. bearing signs with the names of women killed by police for a vigil. The…
  • Meet the Ugandan peasant grandmother who terrifies her president

    Phil Wilmot
    21 May 2015 | 8:31 am
    by Phil Wilmot Keromela Anek sits with some of her neighbors in Apaa. (WNV / Phil Wilmot) Keromela Anek tossed her naked body back and forth in the roadway, blocking a government convoy in the remote village of Apaa, Uganda. Lands Minister Daudi Migereko and Minister of Internal Affairs General Nyakairima Aronda had just traveled to the village that day, April 16, with the plan of redistricting it. That would place Apaa in a new region and help facilitate the sale of the peoples’ land to South African investor Bruce Martin, who hoped to use the heavily forested, currently-populated area for…
  • Despite advances, the trans struggle for justice behind bars is just beginning

    Victoria Law
    20 May 2015 | 9:56 am
    by Victoria Law Ashley Diamond at the Dragnique competition in Atlanta in 2011. (Project Q) For the past three years, Ashley Diamond has been denied health care as well as protection from recurring violence from the men around her. But she has been fighting back — and her fight has been making headlines and wresting small changes from the Georgia Department of Corrections. Her story starkly illustrates the challenges facing trans women behind bars — from frequent violence and sexual assaults to the denial of hormones and other medical neglect. But Diamond’s experiences are far from…
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    Crisis Management

  • CA Congresswoman Mocks Native Americans

    Jonathan & Erik Bernstein
    18 May 2015 | 11:41 am
    What was she thinking? Politicians have a long history of making idiotic remarks “behind closed doors”. The difference today is that everyone carries that teeny tiny recording device called a cell phone in their pocket, landing what would formerly be private remarks firmly in the public eye. Congresswoman Loretta Sanchez (D-Calif) had barely announced her entrance into the race for a Senate seat when she committed a serious faux pas. NBC News broke the story: While talking to a group of Indian Americans — people with links to India — the politician was captured on cell phone…
  • Defending Your Online Reputation

    Jonathan & Erik Bernstein
    5 May 2015 | 7:24 am
    An infographic to help you determine the ideal response to negativity on the ‘net Every organization will face reputation threats these days, but how much it impacts yours will be determined by your reaction. While practice and training will help you determine the ideal response, the Chatterbox infographic below will give you a solid start: ——————————- For more resources, see the Free Management Library topic: Crisis Management ——————————- [Jonathan Bernstein is president of Bernstein Crisis Management, Inc., an international crisis management…
  • Social Responsibility and Reputation

    Jonathan & Erik Bernstein
    30 Apr 2015 | 5:36 am
    Failing to live up to stakeholder expectations is a quick way to sink your reputation Living up to stakeholder expectations is an important part of reputation management. Today, many stakeholders expect you to be socially responsible, but what does that mean to them, and what can you do about it? Online research group Lab42 put out a great infographic explaining this concept, take a look: ——————————- For more resources, see the Free Management Library topic: Crisis Management ——————————- [Jonathan Bernstein is president of Bernstein Crisis Management,…
  • McAfee’s Cyber Threat Predictions

    Jonathan & Erik Bernstein
    29 Apr 2015 | 11:59 am
    What to watch for when it comes to cyber security Cyber threats make up the fastest-growing set of crises we’ve seen over the past two years, and they show little sign of stopping. While some organizations are beefing up security and putting hack-related crisis management plans in place, too often it’s as a reaction to being hit, rather than a preventative measure. McAfee shared the below infographic that highlights what their experts anticipate to be the biggest threats, aka the bare minimum you should be prepared to face: ——————————- For more resources, see…
  • Tech Issues Mar Target Launch

    Jonathan & Erik Bernstein
    25 Apr 2015 | 5:01 am
    Crashed site raises ire of Twitter users trying to purchase items from new collection Target’s refreshed its image and carved out a new niche for itself in today’s crowded market by collaborating with trendy designers to make it a cheap-chic destination. However, during the launch of its new Lilly Pulitzer collection, the retailer’s failure to predict online demand left many would-be customers feeling frustrated. Of course that meant heading to social media to vent, and Target took quite the beating on Twitter. NBC News’ Martha C. White reports: Frustrated consumers…
 
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    Hesketh Mediation Services

  • First Aid for Contentious Probate Disputes

    Philip Hesketh
    6 May 2015 | 4:28 am
    When I mediate contentious probate disputes the parties have usually already run up legal bills in the tens of thousands of pounds. It has got me thinking that an ounce of prevention might be better than a pound of cure. A much earlier intervention could help parties avoid legal costs which might themselves act as an obstacle to settlement of the dispute as both sides demand their costs be paid by the other side. Parties to a dispute often tell me they wish they had been able to speak to the other side months before as they could have avoided an escalation of the costs and bitterness. New…
  • Talking to the other side – Ouija board not required

    Philip Hesketh
    29 Apr 2015 | 3:42 am
    I wrote an article for the Modern Law Magazine Probate Supplement recently. I was talking about my view that parties can lose a lot of the potential benefits of a mediation when they decide not to meet with the other party. I think it is something the parties and their representatives should give a lot of thought to before the mediation. You can read the article here. If you have a mediation coming up and want to talk through the pros and cons of joint meetings give me a call on 0845 056 3625. If you’ve had experience of joint meetings at a mediation share them below in the comments…
  • Warning added to pre-action protocol practice direction

    Philip Hesketh
    23 Apr 2015 | 6:15 am
    The Practice Direction on Pre-Action Conduct and Protocols has been updated with effect from 6th April 2015. Here are the ADR headlines. Litigation should be a last resort 8. Litigation should be a last resort. As part of a relevant pre-action protocol or this Practice Direction, the parties should consider whether negotiation or some other form of ADR might enable them to settle their dispute without commencing proceedings Consider settling at all times 9. Parties should continue to consider the possibility of reaching a settlement at all times, including after proceedings have been started.
  • Ignoring offers to mediate could be expensive

    Philip Hesketh
    23 Apr 2015 | 6:13 am
    Known as the alphabet soup case PGF II SA v OMFS Company 1 Limited is an important case in a recent sequence of cases looking at costs penalties for parties who unreasonably refuse to mediate. The question for the Court of Appeal was how should it deal with a party that simply ignores an invitation to mediate? As many pro forma letters of claim now include an offer to mediate – which is routinely ignored – the case could have significant impact and practitioners may wish to review existing litigation files for this ticking costs time bomb. The first instance judge agreed the…
  • Judge proposes mediation for Robin William’s family

    Philip Hesketh
    1 Apr 2015 | 12:46 pm
    It has been widely reported that a judge has advised the family of the late Robin Williams to consider mediation to help resolve their dispute over his estate. The BBC reported that the comedian’s widow, Susan Schneider Williams, is in dispute with his children over various personal possessions including clothing, watches, photos taken prior to his marriage and memorabilia – including his 1998 Oscar for Good Will Hunting. There is also a dispute over allowances to maintain the house, where Susan still lives. If they do decide to try mediation they can expect the following…
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    Judy Ringer's Ki Moments Blog

  • Lessons Learned: Losing My Voice

    25 May 2015 | 10:00 pm
    I am now recently and thankfully over a bout of laryngitis that in all its manifestations lasted 8 weeks. That's a long time for an organizational trainer, public speaker, and professional singer. It was traumatic at times, frightening, and fascinating. Friends would say, "this is going to be a story eventually," and indeed it is and has been. Have I said that "Unlikely Teachers" are not always welcomed at first? They can seem like annoyances at best and physically or emotionally traumatic at worst. In many cases,…
  • There Are No Guarantees

    11 May 2015 | 10:00 pm
    You spent time and energy preparing and holding an important conversation. You developed a useful purpose, acknowledged your conversation partner, and framed your message with skill. But, in spite of your best efforts, the situation does not improve: a direct report continues to be disrespectful; an important member of the team persists in showing up late or not at all; your teen's room remains a mess.Read more...
  • Lessons Learned: Do I Need To Fix This?

    27 Apr 2015 | 10:00 pm
    Chatting with my friend Amanda Ridings recently about lessons learned from our work, I realized that "fixing" is one that I continue to learn again and again. It seems to be in my nature to help, to offer, to be ready to do. I like that person in me who looks to solve problems and facilitate ease. It's just good to notice when I'm on autopilot and to be intentional about it.  It's an occupational hazard in my work. People come to trainings, request coaching, and look to my book, articles, and…
  • What Makes A Presentation Powerful?

    13 Apr 2015 | 10:00 pm
    What are the characteristics of a powerful presentation? Are you engaging your audience with every means available? What is your primary message and how will you convey it? Whether presenting to an audience of one or one hundred, the quality and effectiveness of your presentation is influenced by many factors, and the most important factor is you. The success of a presentation is a direct result of your stage presence and your ability to communicate your core message.   Read more...
  • 5 Tips for Introverts on Tackling Difficult Conversations

    30 Mar 2015 | 10:00 pm
    Do tentative conversation skills get in the way of your work? Does lack of confidence stop you from offering a different opinion, saying no, or asking for what you want? As a conflict coach and introvert who engages in difficult conversations, I know we’re not born with these skills. It's all about understanding how to use your natural abilities and have the conversations you want to have with ease and true connection.Read more...
 
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    Center for Conflict Dynamics

  • Giving In to Avoid Conflict

    rundece
    7 May 2015 | 7:04 am
    Giving In to Avoid Conflict by Craig Runde, Director of the Center for Conflict Dynamics   When asked to describe conflict, most people use negative words. They often indicate that they prefer to avoid dealing with it when possible. This leads to a particular kind of passive destructive behavior described in the Conflict Dynamics Profile [...]
  • Getting Even Comes at a Large Cost

    rundece
    7 May 2015 | 6:51 am
    Getting Even Comes at a Large Cost by Craig Runde, Director of the Center for Conflict Dynamics   Conflict stirs up strong emotions. When they are not managed well, these emotions can fester and lead us to respond in very destructive ways. One such response is retaliation or getting even with the other person. Researchers [...]
  • Tips for Maintaining Patience During Conflict

    Nancy Pridgen
    6 Apr 2015 | 8:31 am
    Tips for Maintaining Patience During Conflict by Nancy Pridgen for the Center for Conflict Dynamics The dictionary defines patience as “the state of bearing pain or trials without complaint; showing self-control; calm.” In times of conflict or negotiation, exhibiting patience can have a powerful impact on the outcome. Many conflicts start because of unfulfilled needs [...]
  • 5 Steps to Control Your Anger

    rundece
    6 Apr 2015 | 7:21 am
    5 Steps to Control Your Anger by Craig Runde, Director of the Center for Conflict Dynamics Conflict is rife with emotion. One that we frequently encounter is anger. While it is often a secondary emotion that is initially triggered by fear, anger is more visible and can trigger ineffective responses to conflict. One of the [...]
  • The Role of Emotional Self Regulation

    rundece
    17 Feb 2015 | 10:44 am
    The Role of Emotional Self Regulation by Craig Runde, Director of the Center for Conflict Dynamics Recent research has found that improved emotion regulation can prevent task conflict from turning into relationship conflict.(1) This means that improving self-awareness of your own hot buttons, learning how to delay your responses, and developing ways to cool down [...]
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    Scotwork Negotiation Blog - Defining Negotiation in the Modern World

  • Looking Good

    21 May 2015 | 4:55 am
    A recent article in the New York Times has some food for thought for wise negotiators. The authors pose this question – How do you motivate people to do the right thing when the ‘market’ doesn’t work? Their context is the chronic shortage of water in California. This has now become so bad that new mandatory water-reduction regulations came into effect on April 1st. Most of these appear to concern communal water usage such as sprinklers on golf courses and cemeteries, and the replacement of community lawns with grasses which are more resistant to drought conditions. Private citizens…
  • The Power of No

    14 May 2015 | 5:10 am
    The recent Argentinian film ‘Wild Tales’ is a compilation of six unrelated fictions about people in desperate situations. I would recommend it to anyone who likes entertaining storytelling, but one of the segments has particular interest for negotiators. The plot revolves around the wealthy father of a wayward teenager who takes the family BMW out for the night, gets drunk, and collides with a pregnant pedestrian in a hit-and-run incident. Mother and unborn child don’t survive. The teenager confesses to his parents, and the father together with the family lawyer hatch a plan. The…
  • Negotiating Advice for Politicians

    7 May 2015 | 4:56 am
    On the day this blog is published the population of the UK vote in elections for their next government. Opinion polls put the two main parties neck and neck, with neither commanding a strong enough following to win an outright majority. So the result is likely to be a minority government which will have to form a coalition or make deals with the handful of minor parties in order to be able to govern. Even if there is an outright majority for one party the margin will be so small that alliances will need to be forged for effective government to survive. Do we have a cadre of politicians who…
  • The Politician and the Dead Cat

    30 Apr 2015 | 4:55 am
    There appears to be a new technique being banded about by politicians in the UK, no doubt encouraged by their spin doctors in the long run up to this May’s General election. This technique or tactic is called throwing a dead cat on the table. Now no need to get squeamish, the cat is not literally dead, nor has it really been thrown anywhere least especially on the table. The technique refers to a metaphorical cat not a real one...>
  • Three Stories in One

    23 Apr 2015 | 4:55 am
    We are in political season, so I make no apology for another observation on the political landscape, from which the negotiator can learn so much. All three stories involve the SNP. Story 1. As the tension and torture of last year’s Scottish independence referendum fade away, the resurgent SNP wants to go again – perhaps as early as next year... >
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    The Red Velvet Lawyer

  • Countdown to Qatar: Letting Go of Place

    17 May 2015 | 2:34 pm
    For 13 Years, I've Called the Central Appalachian Mountains my Home These lush mountains provide a home and identity for proud, resourceful, self-reliant Appalachians who express a hospitality that combines both mountain and southern values.  They emphasize family ties, community, and church.   They use power washers like no other population I've ever met, probably because mold and coal dust tends to coat walls, porches, and other outside structures in this wet climate.  And because, contrary to the stereotype, they are fastidious housekeepers and take…
  • Countdown to Qatar: What to Sell?

    16 May 2015 | 6:38 am
    The House, for sure.Over the last few posts, I've been discussing my transition to a new job in Qatar beginning on August 15 (yes, I've got a firm date now).   That transition has forced me to consider what to sell.  This past week, I boxed up most of the family heirlooms and other items for storage.  I've also packed about ten boxes of clothes and other items I plan to ship.I also spent several hours on the Qatar Ikea website adding furniture, dinnerware, cutlery, lamps, and other items to my shopping cart to decorate my anticipated four-room apartment in The Pearl…
  • Countdown to Qatar: Just When I Needed Advice . . .

    7 May 2015 | 12:39 pm
       I Get It.   One lawyer's way to have access to his stuff while on the move.
  • Countdown to Qatar: What to Ship?

    5 May 2015 | 2:58 pm
    Do I Love it Enough to Send it on an Extended Boat Ride?During this transition, I am faced with the following decisions:What do I take on the plane with me?What do I store in the U.S.?What do I ship to Qatar?What do I sell or give away?I've covered a couple of those topics here and here.  Today, I am thinking about what to ship. Luckily, I've got new colleagues that have offered good advice.Aaron, a U.S. expat, had this to say:I actually put everything in the biggest boxes Qatar Airways would allow and shipped everything over with me on the plane (I think it was 9 boxes total).
  • 5 May 2015 | 11:42 am

    5 May 2015 | 11:42 am
    80,000 Page Views for The Red Velvet Lawyer Friends, family, and colleagues:Another milestone reached! 80,000 page views!My blogging experience started in March 2013. Like everything, success relates directly to the attention and energy invested in the project.As I blogged more frequently, built my relationship with other bloggers, got more posts shared by my FB friends, and continued to create content I hoped you would like, page views grew exponentially.Here is a summary of my experience:5,000 page views on August 2013.10,000 page views on November 7, 2013.15,000 page views on November…
 
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    Difficult People Made Easy

  • Coaching to help employees separate personal from professional

    Eleanor Shakiba
    18 May 2015 | 9:08 am
    HR practitioners and trainers often have to deal with people who seem ‘overly sensitive’ or inclined to ‘take things personally.’ This video, by people skills expert Eleanor Shakiba, explains why […] The post Coaching to help employees separate personal from professional appeared first on Difficult People Made Easy.
  • How to handle defensive people who take things personally

    Eleanor Shakiba
    11 May 2015 | 2:38 pm
    “I’m going to buy a muffin. Does anyone want anything?” “You know I’m on a diet. You’re always trying to sabotage me.” Yes. Some people seem to think everything you […] The post How to handle defensive people who take things personally appeared first on Difficult People Made Easy.
  • Cartoon about taking things personally

    Eleanor Shakiba
    4 May 2015 | 1:19 pm
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  • Helping employees separate personal from professional

    Eleanor Shakiba
    4 May 2015 | 1:18 pm
    Lara struggles with receiving feedback. She tends to hear it as a personal attack and have a hot-headed reaction. Like many people who have trouble managing emotions in the workplace, […] The post Helping employees separate personal from professional appeared first on Difficult People Made Easy.
  • Communication styles used by difficult people

    Eleanor Shakiba
    27 Apr 2015 | 4:29 pm
    If you’re dealing with difficult behaviour, you need to accurately assess the communication styles they use. Maybe you’re dealing with aggressive behaviours such as shouting or talking over you. Perhaps […] The post Communication styles used by difficult people appeared first on Difficult People Made Easy.
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